Another week with the husband working out of town---bleh. I do enjoy being the boss of the household schedule when it's just me and little G, but come on already- this working out of town is for the toilet! (Um, I think that was supposed to be "for the birds" but I feel more strongly about it than just saying birds---seems wimpy). If you pray- please add us to your prayer list, we're all three tired of this out of town work but continuing in the quest to trust God and being thankful because the hubby is still making money!
On to the "great news;" I previously worked a job that I was very passionate about and didn't even consider a "job." The ultimate reason I did not return to that position after maternity leave was due to the person who ran the place. Saying the term pathological liar only scratches the surface for who this person revealed day after day of who she is. Working for 4 years under this person, odds are I can give an accurate description of who she presented herself as at least in the workplace. MANY, MANY quality coworkers left due to Ms. Liar. On more than NUMEROUS occasions, complaints were voiced about her to the head office- which fell on deaf ears---UNTIL recently. Apparently enough attrition of employees finally raised a red flag and Ms. Liar has been asked to resign---I like to call it FIRED. The best part of this is that the purpose of this program where I used to work will be MUCH better off and those who it serves will reap the benefits. Prayers answered--not in the time I asked/begged for them to be--but in God's plan and perfect timing- cheers!
On to the fun stuff (leave it to something from someone else's blog to be the fun stuff- check their blog out HERE). 5QF (5 Question Friday) y'all...
1. If you knew your best friend's spouse was cheating on her or him, would you tell her (him)?YES- is there any alternative?? I would certainly make sure I had my facts straight and deliver the information in a way that would hopefully be as gentle as possible without damaging our relationship- but, yes- I look out for my best friends' best interests.
2. Soda in a can or a bottle? NEITHER- in a cup with crushed ice (picky picky).
3. What do you wash first, hair or body? Funny question: but my hair- always, for some reason.
4. What advice would you give to any new mama? Oooh, how do I prioritize this answer...the most important for me above all else that I could say- TRUST IN GOD. Aside from that most important information, the following in no particular order:
1. for the first SEVERAL weeks- throw "schedule" out the window or at least forgive yourself when things don't go as scheduled- because schedule is a pretty useless word/concept in the beginning. (no, you're not a failure if your baby doesn't sleep like the next Mom's baby or start reading at the age of 2 weeks)
2. ROLL WITH IT (not like down a hill with the baby): because baby will have plans of his/her own and this is all NEW to you and your family, so just let it be what it is (and FEEL FREE to call your pediatrician for WHATEVER questions you have about baby---that is what you've chosen them for, utilize the resource.) Note: why did I not say ask family/friends?? Because sometimes it's just more reassuring to get it from the "expert" and sometimes family/friends don't give good advice.
3. It's OK to NOT ENJOY everything about motherhood and it's ok to wonder--what the heck have I gotten myself in to?? In my own experience- I can't say I fully enjoyed motherhood until baby G was about 3 months old. Those first 2-3 months were a bit tough--then the kid decided to finally throw me a bone and smile (even if it was just a reflex and not meaningful at first!).
4. If breastfeeding: you WILL lose your mind time and again throughout the duration of breastfeeding---I have resolved to say that this wonderful opportunity is 90% psychological because you'll constantly wonder: "is baby getting enough food," "is my production low," "do i SPOIL my child too much by feeding him "too" often?" "if i have a glass of wine, milk, coffee (etc.), will it screw the whole thing up??"
Lastly- accept help when help is offered and remember that YOU are worthy and important and deserve to have a few minutes each day sans baby--I remember savoring hot showers as my escape.
5. What is your best hangover remedy?
GREASE (wha you say??)- get urself some bacon on an egg sandwich or a greasy burger- grab a gatorade or smart water and take a multivitamin (possibly with extra vitamin C).
Last thing I'd like to add to this blog post is related to question number 4 about advice to new Moms. In my experience thus far what is lacking is genuine support from one Mom to the next. Instead what is often times imparted is a sense of competition or feelings that can leave one feeling "less than" or "shamed."
Just embracing the awesome blessing of being a parent (whether with a biological child or adopted) should be the point. It's already so easy to compare yourself to another and when it comes to parenting, this can be really destructive. Moms need support and other Moms can offer a kind of support that a husband/boyfriend, etc. cannot. So kumbaya together everyone and happy Friday! ;)
I'm making THESE this weekend as practice for holiday gifts.
HEY--YOU, you person reading my blog: post a comment- maybe answer one of the 5QF questions above or tell me how lovely I am :)
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